Like many girls, I have been mentally planning my wedding since I was knee high to a grasshopper. I had grand ideas of a winter wedding with snow and a little hot drinks stall. I had dreams of a Labyrinth themed wedding with contact jugglers and a ball room filled with beautiful, ornate dresses. I had visions of castles, gardens, mazes, churches, barns, lakes, ice walls – basically every scenario possible ran through my head and I loved them all. Now the time has come and I have to actually choose a theme, a venue, music, a cake and the rest and it’s harder than I could have imagined.
I have been engaged for a grand total of six days and after so many queries of when the big day will be, we have just about decided what month we’d like to get married in. Despite my dreams of a snowy winter wedding, Britain isn’t the most reliable country when it comes to weather and we don’t fancy a dark, damp, miserable wedding day. With this and the fact that a lot of our friends are based in the States, we kind of want to show London and the UK at its best so we have opted for August 2013.
That’s only 15 months. 15 months to plan a wedding, get in shape, save a decent amount of money and not have a nervous breakdown. But, we’ve made the first decision. It makes it a little bit more real and a little bit more terrifying.
I have been reading magazines, blogs, doing image searches and daydreaming about weddings every spare moment I have and I’m pretty much lost in a sea of ‘I Do’s. But now it’s time to get down to business. We instinctively started to discuss our guest list and dates that we think people can make. Apparently, this is the right thing to do. According to this wonderful article that made me feel a little bit more sane, season and guest list are the first two big steps to take. But choosing who will be at your wedding is hard. Between us we know over 1200 people – as in we actually know them. We can cut that list by roughly 75% without a second thought but then deciding on a group of people we love and want to share our day with without offending anyone is pretty tough. We’ve always said we wanted a small wedding – 50 people tops – but now we’re looking at 100 and it’s making us nervous and that’s not even considering the singletons who may want to bring a date (is that a thing in the UK?).
Surprisingly, with my stressy nature, I’m calm. I don’t think Moo knows it yet but I plan on taking him somewhere to eat and have an afternoon drink this weekend and attacking him with a list of names and some potential venues so that we can start thinking about it seriously. If your fiancé is anything like mine, I think stealth attack is seriously the way forward when it comes to wedding planning.
So all you wives and brides-to-be, help a sister out. How did you start taking those first few steps?